First time moms and grandparents share same goals, but different ways of getting there

A few months back, I was talking to a first-time mom about how things were going, and she was excited to tell me that she was feeling much better because the baby had been with his grandparents over the weekend.

By Nicole Nowitzki

Dunn County Herald

She was able to get some much-needed sleep and get caught up around the house. Her son was only about three months old, so she said with a smile, “I knew that if I gave them a list of do’s and don’ts, they wouldn’t listen anyway, so I said that there are only two rules: Don’t take the baby on the tractor and NO people food!” I laughed because I know the grandparents she was referring to, and I agreed that those two rules were really pushing it.

I stopped to think about all of the different types of things that make grandparents special. They are allowed to be the favorite. They have earned that honor. They have reached the milestone permitting them to send these newly spoiled-rotten children back to their own babies as a tinge of payback. It is acceptable to stay up late, eat ice cream for dinner, buy them all of the most annoying toys, and let them do all of the taboo things their parents would never allow.

It’s fun to be the superhero! The children yearn to see them, and they light up when you say Grandma and Grandpa’s name. They are the rescue squad from the strict environment they are accustomed.

Plus, it has to be so bizarre to see your own babies all grown up with children of their own. I’ve heard that you still see your little pig-tailed girl or sweet baby boy. It must be some sort of twilight zone moment to look at this new child and see hints of your own child. It’s a special bond.

I know it’s hard to leave your baby with someone else, but I can assure you that Grandma and Grandpa are more concerned with the health and safety of your child than anyone else!

Sometimes, it’s hard to just turn over the reins to someone else. What if they don’t do it the same way we do it at home? Well, I hate to break it to you, but they are not going to do it the same way you do it at home. However, that is their chaos to deal with while you are away, so if they want to do it their way, let them. You can get them back onto their schedule, feed them a special diet, and use the latest parenting strategy when you get them back home.

One of my favorite quotes from my mother-in-law would have to be, “I’m afraid to admit how many cookies he’s had today.” She is always willing to help, and she begs to take the kids because she loves spending time with them. She always smiles at my lists and schedules, but we all know she won’t glance at them unless there is an emergency. Usually, she finds these papers in the suitcase on the third day. Although, is this really a problem? No, because she is the one in charge while they are at her house.

Once, I called to ask what they were doing, and I hear her ask from the background, “Who’s on the phone?” Her husband mistakenly thought I was his sister. She yelled, “We are making cookies right now, and I’m feeding them chocolate chips, but if you were talking to their mom, that would NOT be the story.” I wasn’t even mad because this is going to be something my children remember forever.

When it’s all said and done, they are going to remember the love, the experiences, and the special moments that are only shared between a child and their grandparents. My only request is that they send pictures.

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