Recently, I’ve had people define me as Supermom and say, “I don’t know how you do it.” Honestly, sometimes I don’t know how I do it either, but I don’t feel like I’m doing anything extraordinary. When you are observing yourself, you only focus on your flaws and failures. When it comes down to it, I think all moms are amazing!
By Nicole Nowitzki
They say you can’t judge a book by its cover. It’s impossible to imagine what someone is going through behind closed doors. If people are trying their best, who am I to judge them? Some moms are lucky to get out of bed due to things like depression or anxiety. Some long to stay home with their children, and some wish they could go back to work. Some have struggles with their marriages, but they still have to save face for their children. Everyone has their own story. The problem is that some don’t talk about it.
I know a mom that has two children, and one has special needs. I think of her often when I’m moaning and complaining, and I think of her many trials and tribulations, yet she always gives it her all and wears a smile proudly. I don’t think it matters how many children someone has. That doesn’t make someone a better or more incredible mother.
It makes no difference that I have four children because I have seen families with eight and twelve leave the house with much more ease than I do. I look to these moms for wisdom and advice, yet I’ve learned valuable lessons from first-time moms, too. It is important to remember that we are all filled with ideas, experiences, and love for our children, so it is easy to learn something new!
Being a mother is a community, but for some reason, this club sometimes feels like the most isolating experience of your life. Sometimes, it’s rejuvenating to talk to other moms because it makes you realize that you aren’t alone.
When it comes to taking the kids in public, I just take them. If they start throwing a tantrum, we might have to leave or calm down for a minute to regroup. My kids love the opportunity to get out of the house, but that doesn’t mean they are going to be on their best behavior. I’m thankful to have so many accommodating people in the community that allow me to bring my side-show circus. I’m always dumbfounded by how many kind and helpful people exist in such a small town. It’s one of the main reasons I love living here! When they say it takes a village to raise a child, I’m glad that they will be raised in this one!